How I got my almost two year old off the dummy in just 3 days
Firstly, I’m neither for dummies or against them. Or pacifiers or soothers, as you might know them. It served its purpose while it needed to, but as Liam got bigger, it just became a real nightmare to have. I hated photos of him with his dummy in. Always having to make sure we have the dummy wherever we go. The dummy was always falling on the floor and of course the little wives tale that a dummy makes your teeth bad. So this is how I got my almost two year old off the dummy in just 3 days.
I received the dummy with my free baby bag from Discovery Vitality as I was registered on the baby program at that time. I had no intention of using it since I didn’t know the benefits or the purpose of the dummy. It just always seemed like such an unnecessary accessory for babies to have. I obviously didn’t have any experience with one before since Liam was my first child.
So I didn’t give the dummy to Liam in the first few weeks. When I gave him the dummy, I honestly had no reason to. It was purely out of curiosity. But after giving him the dummy, I realized how great it was because he slept longer at night. And of course, I was extremely sleep deprived at the time so finding something that made him sleep longer and pacified him during the day, felt too good to be true!
It pretty much helped with sleep and soothing for about the first 18 months. His dummy was his everything. He had it in his mouth all the time and was with him everywhere he went. It became a schlep though. Always having to make sure it was with us all the time. And we didn’t keep spares.
I then started keeping the dummy away from him during the day. He didn’t ask for it at all during the day but definitely wanted it at night. I thought I would gradually hold it back during the night in the coming weeks. One Saturday we spent the day out braaiing at Newlands Forest. Only at about 20h30 that evening, did we realise that we did not have the dummy. We searched high and low and could not find it. We most likely left it at the forest. Unfortunately we did not keep any spares since I had already made up mind to get Liam off the dummy.
SO that was it. Here we were, stuck without a dummy, late at night!! He cried all night. All I could do was comfort him and hold him and keep him close to me. I even tried the teat of his bottle, and he didn’t want that, he wanted his dummy! And when I say he cried all night, I am not just exaggerating to make a point. That is exactly the point, he cried, ALL NIGHT, literally! The next day, he was all fine, as if the night before did not happen. But after what he had just been through, I felt it would be wrong for me to get a new dummy because then it would mean that he went through such a terrible night all for nothing.
I decided to give it a go again. The next night, just before bed time, I explained to him that there is no dummy. Obviously one cannot negotiate with an almost two year old, let alone reason with them but I made sure I repeated myself several times that there is no more dummy. That night, he cried for less than half of the night. He knew he wasn’t going to get it and that was most probably why he gave up. I again kept him close to me, comforted him and tried to calm him.
On night 3, during the day and just before bed time, I again explained to him that there is no more dummy. He cried for a few minutes, then slept as per normal. By night 4, I repeated the same as I did before on the previous nights. He slept without any crying. I was so happy!! My champ did it all on his own, with lots of comforting from his mom of course.In three days my son was off the dummy. I honestly believed it would have taken much longer and although losing the dummy felt like our biggest nightmare (which it was on night 1), it actually turned out to be more of a dream come true, HA!
I would love to hear how you got yours off the dummy! Drop your comments below.
PS: The pics in this post are of my youngest son, Cole. You can view his outfit details on the gallery page.