Get off your phone, mama!
This is by far the weirdest post I’ve written yet. I feel like the biggest hypocrite writing this as I have a major problem with being on my phone around my kids. It’s also quite ironic since you are most likely reading this on your phone. Ha! I’m really not alone in this. There are far too many parents spending too much time on cellphones.
Parents spending too much time on cellphones
This problem has been bothering me for a while now and I kind of forced myself to write this post because I knew that it will help me to acknowledge the fact that I have a problem. Not that I need any further acknowledgement! I have been realising more and more how much time I have been wasting on my phone. I probably spend about ten minutes on my phone in the mornings, basically doing a quick “catch up” on social media notifications. Those ten minutes can lead into 20, then 30 and the next thing it’s 7:15 am and I need to walk out the door in 30 minutes.
I always seem to trick myself into believeing that surfing the internet at night is a way of relaxing. I did an exercise which proved that you are not relaxed until all your muscles are relaxed. So from holding your phone with your hand and scrolling with your fingers, keeping your head up and looking with your eyes, well, that doesn’t sound like much relaxation happening there. I know this, but I guess I just keep telling myself it’s relaxtion because it’s my way of running away from my responsibilities. I’m human. Can you blame me?
This evening, I was thinking about the chaos I’m going to walk into at home. You know, the usual, kids going crazy, mostly because they are so happy to see us, tv is on, lots of white noise. I was kind of dreading it. Again, can you blame me? I’m only human, and I do get tired, more often that not, especially after a long day at the office. So when I got home, the house was quiet. Both Liam and Cole were asleep. It felt so strange. I couldn’t function in that quiet and stillness. It didn’t last long though. My point is this, I got stuck into my phone, and after Liam woke up, he was speaking to me and I didnt hear a word that he had said. Because I was so busy with something so unimportant. Sadly, I could see the frustration in his eyes, without him needing to actually say it.
For a second, I thought about it this way. Imagine someone you love is always on their phone. Imagine how it must feel when the person is constantly looking at their phone? Some years ago I read an oral written by a child. The subject of the oral was something along the lines of what the child would want to be when they grow up. The child wanted to be a tv. He explained it’s because his parents are always looking at the tv, they are always happy when they look at the tv, when he talks to them, they irritatedly answer him back and quickly get back to looking at the tv.
I guess this is pretty much the same thing. I’d hate for my kids to grow up thinking that my phone is more important to me than they are. I read an article on world breastfeeding week when the writer said that even scrolling through your phone during breastfeeding means you losing out on precious time with your child. And the reverse too. They are losing out on precious time with YOU.
So this is it! I am done with being on my phone around the kids. Not completely, but certainly not during the week when I only have a max of three hours with them per day. Not even, especially not if I subtract cooking time from that. So tonight was the last night of it and starting tomorrow (03 August 2017), my phone will be on silent and away from me between 17h30 and 21h00. I have a landline at home, my hubby has a cellphone, so if it’s an emergency, I am reachable. I am challenging myself to this for two weeks. Weekends will be more flexible of course. I hope to see a difference in my both my children and myself. Let’s see!
Do you have this problem too? Keen to join me in the challenge? Comment below!